Accidentally Pregnant at 42
— Posted by Annie (February 7, 2006 at 10:30 am)
Now that I have a baby, I get free baby magazines in the mail. I don’t read them for pleasure (well maybe a little), but more so to see what’s out there. The latest magazine, Baby Talk, had an article with the above title. First of all, pregnancy isn’t an accident. We all know where babies come from.
What really bothered me was the woman’s attitude. She and her husband had been through rigorous fertility treatments. They finally gave up on that and adopted two little girls from China. When she found out she was pregnant, she saw the baby as an “intrusion” and couldn’t handle morning sickness. So they decided on abortion.
Once her morning sickness started to ease up, she decided that she wanted the baby. I give her credit for choosing life. But what I find strange is that two mothers in China chose life for their babies and gave them up so that this woman could have a family. Who knows what they went through. Yet, it seemed so easy for her to think of abortion. Funny how it’s a baby when you want it but an intrusion when you don’t.
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Danielle says:
I agree. It’s frusterating when you see people who try and try to have a baby, and never have one and then see all of these girls killing their children that would be accepted and loved by many, many other people. During the time that this couple was undergoing fertility treatments, if they found out that they were pregnant, they would probably say “We’re going to have a baby,” but when they weren’t expecting to be pregnant, the baby was suddenly an “intrusion” or a “problem”, although it was the same age as when they would have found out that they were pregnant before. Also, a pregnancy may be a bother, intrusion, or problem, but a baby is always a blessing, never something not to be wanted. But the mentality in our culture is that children are just trouble, and the less we have, the better, which is just one of the many lies that our prochoice culture has fed us. God bless America??
Comment posted February 8th, 2006 at 5:59 pm
Jean says:
How unbelievably selfish! Wanting to murder her baby just because it caused her a little discomfort! I pray that her decision to have this child softened her hardened heart and taught her the true meaning of love.
Comment posted February 10th, 2006 at 11:39 am
Annie says:
Danielle:
I especially agree with your observation of our cultural mentality – that children are a burden. Back in college I used to take care of a very wealthy woman’s horse. She wanted a baby badly, but was unable to get pregnant. After lots of fertility treatment, she did in virto and finally got pregnant. Shorlty following the birth of her daughter, she went back to work and left her little girl with a nanny. I don’t know why you would go to so much trouble to have a baby just to leave her with someone else. I love being with my little girl and would miss her terribly if I had to leave her all day!
Comment posted February 10th, 2006 at 6:10 pm
Annie says:
Jean:
I hope her heart is soften. A baby changes you for the better in so many ways. Maybe, hopefully this woman will change her attitude. All things are possible.
Comment posted February 10th, 2006 at 6:13 pm
Pam says:
You are so right! No child is an accident, I am 42 years young and will turn 43 in April. I found out that I am pregnant a week or so ago. Not planned by me but obviously planned by God! It was a shock but we are so excited that God is blessing our family with another baby. I have an 11 year old and a 2-1/2 year old that I delivered at 40! Please say a prayers for us and the baby as we enter this new journey in our lives!
Comment posted March 4th, 2006 at 5:30 pm
Annie says:
Pam-
Congratulations! What an awesome attitude you have about the new life growing inside you. I wish all women could see their babies in that way. Some surprises really are the best! My grandma had my Uncle Bill, her 10th child, at 44. I will definitely offer up a prayer for you and your family.
Comment posted March 6th, 2006 at 6:21 pm
Shirley says:
Hi ladies,
I will be 42 in Oct, and we are thinking of having another baby. My other children are 19, 15, 9. I will have to go through invetro to conceive, my tubes have been tied. Do you think we should just go for it, or adopt? The reason I ask is because I’m alittle scared to go through the pregnancy at my age….Feedback needded PLEASE
shirley
Comment posted September 5th, 2006 at 12:16 am
cb says:
i wonder what decision shirley made. either way — it’s a very personal choice. my thoughts would be along the lines of 1) there are so many children who need love. why at 42 with three biological children not consider sharing some of your love with a child who does not have parents to do so for them? and 2) in terms of the expense of in vitro, why not share some of your financial resources with the suffering, alone and hungry children of the world?
Comment posted June 27th, 2008 at 5:57 am