“Thank You” from a Woman Who Chose Life
— Posted by Annie (January 31, 2007 at 12:58 pm)
Nancy, who was twice faced with the abortion choice, e-mailed our office not long ago with the following story. I thought it was worth printing. Please keep her and her family in your prayers.
I had a horribly dysfunctional life, full of abuse of different sorts and much pain. I got pregnant when I was 17 years old, still in high school. I watched this news break my dad’s heart, (my parents were divorced and I was living with him at that time) which absolutely broke mine. I don’t understand all the complexities of why, but my dad’s girlfriend and I did not get along well and I moved back in with my mother.
Unfortunately we also did not get along well. In all fairness, my mother was overwhelmed with all of her issues, so keeping my child was not an option. I gave him up for adoption. Fast forward to 1994 and I found myself pregnant again. I was terrified. My boyfriend and I decided that the only plausible option was to abort.
You must know that I do not agree with abortion - I never have. I have always been opposed to it. Even then. I was just so scared, for many different reasons, but I b elieve that the fear of my first pregnancy revisited me at that time. And all the emotional pain that went along with it. I went to Chicago to have the abortion because I was terrified that my mother would somehow find out if I had it done in Indianapolis.
We went one day (I believe it was Saturday) and I registered, paid and waited for my turn. I was taken back, put on my gown and had an ultrasound. Then I waited in the waiting room that was used only for the women coming to abort, not the main waiting room outside. I was so scared and upset, I had my boyfriend come back to talk to me. I was hoping that he would tell me not to do it, but he didn’t.
I was so frustrated, I didn’t know how to stop this thing. I went to wait again and said to God “I don’t know what to do, please tell me what to do.” (I was not a Christian at this time, though I was raised Catholic.) A woman walked into the waiting room, also there to have an abortion, she saw me crying and said “It’s ok honey, I was like that the first few times.” Hearing her say that, I was disgusted, this did not sit well with me, this was a baby!
It was my turn, they came for me and walked me back to the procedure room. I stood in the doorway and looked at the table, with the stirrups, and it looked so harsh and cold. I looked at the file the nurse was holding in her arms and saw that they turned the ultrasound picture around so that I could not see it. That bothered me.
I did not enter the room, just stood there crying when the manager/decision maker of the place, came to me and said “I don’t think you are ready for this.” I said “No, I’m not.” Wow! What relief! I went back, got dressed and they gave me my money back. I walked out into the waiting room, which was absolutely packed, and said to my boyfriend “I’m not doing it.”
I SAW the weight come off of his shoulders! We immediately got up and walked out, only to encounter a whole bunch of silent protestors outside on the sidewalk! We had to walk between them all, as they had lined both sides of the sidewalk. They were not saying a word, just standing and praying with pictures and signs in their hands.
I walked halfway down with my eyes on the ground and finally said out loud “I didn’t do it.” They absolutely erupted with cheers of joy! They then walked us to the car and insisted upon giving us whatever money they had in their pockets. They took my phone number and called me once to check up on us.
I know that I did not engage in friendly conversation with whoever it was that called, I just wanted to get off the phone because I was still dealing with all of my pain. However, since becoming a Christian, I have always wanted to let them know, every single one of them that was there that day praying, that I am so grateful for them and the love they have for the Lord.
He saved me that day, He saved my daughter, and He used every single person there as a part of His perfect plan. Thank you SO much. Truly my words cannot express to you how thankful I am - but I know that everybody that was there will be blessed with eternal blessings because of their love and service.
My boyfriend and I did marry that same year, two and a half months before Yasmeen’s birthday. We are very happily married, it will be 13 years in May. God has done amazing things for me in my life, and I know that He will do more.
I have a prayer request, maybe even some of those same people that were there that day will be able to hear this request; please pray for my husband, because he does not know the Lord, he is Muslim. He is a non-practicing Muslim and he lets me raise the girls Christian, but I long for his salvation. This may be hard to understand, but truly my husband is the most Christ-like person that I know!
His heart, his love, his kindness, his generosity have taught me so much. He has made me a better Christian. God does not make mistakes, though he takes ours and uses them for our good, for His glory. Though sin brought my husband and I together, God has restored and refined me to know Him, and I know that He will do the same for my husband. The spiritual stronghold of Islam is huge, but the Lord overcomes all obstacles. Please pray for this.
Thank you.
Nancy
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Manas Shaikh says:
My comments apply to Nancy.
Dear friend
Why are you afraid of your friend being a Muslim? A Muslim knows the Lord. He believes in One God (sometimes they call him Allah ).
As you have shown your open mindedness by exploring Christianity, I think you should explore Islam. It is very interesting and enriching.
“Whatever they may call themselves, a Muslim, a Christians, or a Jew; if they believe in One God, does righteous deeds and is just and reasonable, they will be forgiven.”- The Qur’an
So worry not sister. May God be your guide.
All Truths are from God, all errors here are from me.
Peace.
Comment posted January 31st, 2007 at 3:24 pm
Young Christian Woman says:
Praise God!
Comment posted January 31st, 2007 at 4:38 pm
Christina says:
Praise God that you have your child! And prayers for your husband.
Comment posted January 31st, 2007 at 4:51 pm
Sunnyday says:
Nancy’s story made me all choked up, but in joy, especially in the part after she decided not to do it. God really moves hearts, if only we keep them open to His promptings. Praise God for your child and husband, Nancy! I will surely keep you in my prayer intentions as well as your husband so that you will both live everyday according to what God has planned for you. =)
Comment posted January 31st, 2007 at 8:24 pm
mary kay says:
Sometimes I feel like standing out at that clinic every Saturday is just a waste of time…we can’t talk to anyone…the death scorts think we’re a joke…the girls going in act like they hate us…the police treat us like criminals…
Then I read something like this and I remember that the prayers we say ARE having an effect…our presence IS making a difference…At least I’m “trying”…
Nancy,
You thank us. But I say “THANK YOU”, for giving me a good cry and the knowledge that I AM doing the right thing. God Bless You, and your beautiful children, AND you’re wonderful husband.
Remember, more often than not, when God calls us, He whispers.
Be patient. Your husband will hear Him eventually! Maybe through the small, precious voice of your daughter…
MK
Comment posted February 1st, 2007 at 5:41 am
ausblog says:
Have You Seen : Dumb Ox Daily News / UN Abortion Activists have allies in senate. (Must See)
Comment posted February 1st, 2007 at 7:06 am
ausblog says:
World estimations of the number of terminations carried out each year is somewhere between 20 and 88 million.(likely 55 to 60)
Over 3,500 per day / Over 1.3 million per year in America alone.
50% of that 1.3 million claimed failed birth control was to blame.
A further 48% had failed to use any birth control at all.
And 2% had medical reasons.
That means a staggering 98% of unwanted pregnancies may have been avoided had an effective birth control been used.
People have to stop using abortion as birth control.
People should be able to choose to use birth control,
to avoid having to make another choice.
I’d like to see effective birth control made available to all who can’t afford it.
Comment posted February 1st, 2007 at 7:08 am
Annie says:
Ausblog says:
“50% of that 1.3 million claimed failed birth control was to blame.”
Case in point: birth control doesn’t work. No human is perfect so no birth control will ever be perfect. Besides, birth control - mostly aimed at women - is unhealthy. Better to understand the meaning of SEX.
Comment posted February 1st, 2007 at 8:09 am
Quinn says:
Muslims are lost. Islam is inherently evil. The Koran denies the historically verifiable fact of Jesus Christ’s death and resurrection and ascension. It promotes killing those who do not convert to Islam.
Some helpful passages for Nancy:
2 Cor 6:14 Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?
1 Cor 7:13-17,27-28 And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. 15 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such [cases.] But God has called us to peace. 16 For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save [your] husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save [your] wife? 17 But as God has distributed to each one, as the Lord has called each one, so let him walk. And so I ordain in all the churches. 27 Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be loosed. Are you loosed from a wife? Do not seek a wife. 28 BUT EVEN IF YOU DO MARRY, YOU HAVE NOT SINNED; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Nevertheless such will have trouble in the flesh, but I would spare you.
Comment posted February 1st, 2007 at 1:43 pm
nancy says:
Thank you all for your posts, I appreciate that my story has encouraged and uplifted you.
MARY KAY -
God Bless you for your effort, as I said in my story, you will be eternally blessed. I do not know if you were there the day that I was there, but I know that all of your prayers are heard and are used by God in the lives of all of the other women who visit those clinics. You will see the full beautiful picture one day, never give up, let the Lord encourage you.
QUINN -
Thank you for your concern for me and the Scripture verses. Unfortunately I was not a Christian before I married my husband. However, like I said, he is amazing! He is absolutely the kindest, most gentle and caring man I have ever known. And I am not one of those young girls disillusioned with Middle Eastern men, as we see so prevalently these days. We have been married almost 13 years, and though we have had some major rough patches, God is good! He has grown me and has used my husband to do it. My husband has taught me more about love and respect than anybody in my life ever has. I know that this is unusual to hear, I am very blessed to have this kind of relationship. Many people who know us are amazed that he is so wonderful. Unfortunately there are many Middle Eastern/Muslim men who are not so wonderful. That being said, there are many American/Christian men who are not so wonderful! Anyway, one thing that the Lord showed me was this: 1 Peter 3:1-2 - Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.
SUNNYDAY -
Thank you for your prayers - I will always need them! I pray that one day my husband will thank you for them also
YOUNG CHRISTIAN WOMAN & CHRISTINA
Yes, Praise God!!! He is so wonderful:) And thank you also for your prayers. Do you know what God’s word says about the prayers of the saints?
Psalm 141:2 - May my prayer be set before you like incense; may the lifting up of my hands be like the evening sacrifice.
Then in Revelation we find these verses -
Revelation 5:8 - And when he had taken it, the four living creatures and the twenty-four elders fell down before the Lamb. Each one had a harp and they were holding golden bowls full of incense, which are the prayers of the saints.
Revelation 8:3-4 - Another angel, who had a golden censer, came and stood at the altar. He was given much incense to offer, with the prayers of all the saints, on the golden altar before the throne. The smoke of the incense, together with the prayers of the saints, went up before God from the angel’s hand.
Can’t you just picture God and the burning incense of our prayers coming up before Him? He is so pleased with them:)
MANAS SHAIKH -
Thank you for taking your time to comment, I do appreciate it. It is not my friend though Manas, it is my husband. Though I am also concerned for my Muslim friends. I hope not to offend you, please forgive me. I only pray for my husband and all Muslims to see the truth of the forgiving blood of Jesus. This is who I refer to when I speak of The Lord. I know that Muslims believe in God! I have many friends and family that are Muslim and love God very much. As a Christian though, you must understand that we serve the Lord Jesus, bringing glory to the Father. I know that Muslims do not hold this view, but it is ok to engage in dialogue, it is good! And I have to be truthful and tell you that I did explore Islam, and the Lord showed me the truth of Christianity. Manas, you are so special to take your time for me, may God bless you deeply!
Comment posted February 1st, 2007 at 3:10 pm
Joanne says:
What a wonderful story-it brought tears to my eyes!
Comment posted February 1st, 2007 at 6:59 pm
ausblog says:
Annie, obviously……….many lied.
Comment posted February 1st, 2007 at 8:55 pm
Christine says:
Ausblog:
These statistics are have been pretty consistent for years; that being birth control failure as the most common reason for abortion followed by no birth control.
The problem is that birth control has given people false assurance so they have sex with people, and at times, that would otherwise not be responsible, in their eyes. If said people didn’t have BC it’s more likely that they wouldn’t put themselves in the position where they would have an “unplanned” pregnancy.
Now I’m not saying to rid the world of BC, just that it has done the opposite affect - created more unplanned pregnancies.
Comment posted February 2nd, 2007 at 5:00 am