— Posted by Kara (February 14, 2012 at 7:49 pm)
Valentineâ€™s Day. The holiday can invoke various responses, from joy to sadness, or loneliness to ire. Despite our dating status, though, it should make us happy. Why?
Valentineâ€™s Day shouldnâ€™t just be about roses, chocolates, and significant others–itâ€™s a time to remember our love for everyone, including family and friends. Itâ€™s what Jesus would want us to do–show love for everyone. Itâ€™s a commercial holiday, but we donâ€™t need to let consumerism and romance get us in the dumps on Valentineâ€™s.
A lot of people, including me at times, can get depressed when it comes to their love lives. Itâ€™s refreshing to adopt what Iâ€™d call the â€œMichael BublÃ© optimismâ€ you find in his song, â€œHavenâ€™t Met You Yetâ€: â€œI know someday it will all work out, Youâ€™ll make me work to work it out, and I promise you kid, to give so much more than I get, I just havenâ€™t met you yet.â€
Rather than being depressed, we can hope that â€œthe oneâ€ is out there for us, we just havenâ€™t met him or her yet. In the meantime, we can work on bettering ourselves for â€œthe oneâ€ and showing our love to all of our Brothers and Sisters in Christ.
If we search for love in the wrong places or stay too focused on romantic love, it could hurt us. Take St. Augustineâ€˜s Confessions:
â€œI pursued whoever-whatever might be loveable, in love with love. Safety I hated–and any course without danger. For within me was a famine.â€
â€œI carried inside me a cut and bleeding soul, and how to get rid of it I just didnâ€™t know. I sought every pleasure–the countryside, sports, fooling around, the peace of a garden, friends and good company, sex, reading. My soul floundered in the void–and came back upon me. For where could my heart flee from my heart? Where could I escape from myself?â€
Even if we have a date on Valentineâ€™s that doesnâ€™t mean weâ€™ll be happy. Unless we are secure in Godâ€™s love and secure with ourselves the way we are, then romance wonâ€™t fill our deepest longings. Only God can do that.
We canâ€™t be like St. Augustine and try to fill our deepest longings with material goods or sex. Sex without attachment will only hurt us, if not now, then someday. My purpose of this post isnâ€™t to start a big debate about premarital sex (you can read all of my and my fellow bloggersâ€™ posts on purity if you donâ€™t believe premarital sex is harmful) but my purpose is to remind you thatâ€¦.
God loves you, loves me, and that this Valentineâ€™s, we can all show love for each other instead of getting depressed chasing after the worldâ€™s false ideas about love, romance, and sexuality. So much more is waiting for us if we are patient, and I just as much as anyone need to remember this.
Happy Valentineâ€™s Day, Everyone!