Login or Edit
Pro-Life TeensPro-Life TeensPro-Life TeensPro-Life Teens

Better Kissing

— Posted by Kara (June 4, 2012 at 6:01 pm)

One of my biggest faults is obstinacy. Hence, I continued to research the issue of French kissing before marriage, even after my last post about kissing. I stubbornly believed that it must not always be wrong since it seems to be in almost every movie, including highly-acclaimed black-and-white films. Wrong!

My quest led me to one of the best online articles I’ve found about chastity and dating. Not only does it discuss kissing, but it also discusses topics like arousal and expressing affection in courtship. The article is “DATING AND CHASTITY, Preparation for A Warm, Loving Christian Marriage” by Rev. T. G. Morrow.

Reverend Morrow reiterated the Catechism’s teaching that seeking sexual pleasure outside of marriage is sinful, which of course, is something that French kissing is. He also addressed one of my other questions:

However, there has to be a bit more to it than that. After all, some may argue (and some do) they are not seeking sexual pleasure in their sexual encounters, but just to show affection. What, then would be another reasonable criterion to judge by? The nature of the activity. If an activity is by its nature highly stimulating, then it belongs only in marriage. This would include French kissing and touching sensitive areas of the body.

See just how we have been lied to and cheated for so many years? I received a strong Catholic education until I graduated from high school, yet I still have always questioned what should be such a simple issue. I can’t help but wonder if other young men and women have experienced such doubts as well and engaged in this type of kissing without realizing the gravity of the issue, thinking it must be okay since “everyone is doing it” on movies, TV, and in public.

We’ve been effectively brainwashed into believing that for there to be romance and passion there much be French kissing as well. This is far from the truth and we need to change this belief, first with ourselves and then with others.

There are other appropriate forms of affection, as Reverend Morrow highlights, such as holding hands, regular kisses, and hugging. Listen to the way he describes a form of showing affection:

In fact, one evening, a young man about 30 years old called me after one of our “Christian Dating in An Oversexed World” seminars, and asked, “Well, Father, what should I do to tell my sweetheart goodnight?” I told him, “Well, you might put your hand to her face and move forward ever-so-slowly, and gently kiss her once, twice. Then give her a big, slow hug, pressing your cheek against hers and feeling the warmth as a way of proclaiming your real warm feelings for her. Then, perhaps say something nice, such as, “You are so precious to me.” Then say goodnight and kiss her once more, slowly, tenderly, as if you fear she might break if you aren’t careful.” [5]

Isn’t that more special than French kissing or “making out”? Often, if we think about it, doesn’t French kissing often start to look like two people trying maul each other’s faces? Of course, a lot of guys don’t kiss like described above, which is why Reverend Morrow joked girls may need to give guys some training in this area.

Reverend Morrow also developed a “Mega-hugs Courtship” technique to help couples remain chaste:

I have asked them to try an experiment for a month: to hug for five or ten seconds at a time, and to step back, look at her, and then to hug her again, and then again. They should hug several times in succession as often as they like instead of French kissing, and should only kiss goodnight, tenderly, gently, standing up. In this way they can experience that “closeness” John Paul II spoke of without getting highly stimulated.

Father Morrow also brought up another very valid argument against French kissing:

The point is, French kissing is of a different genre than affectionate kissing. It’s very sensual. It could hardly be called affection. Can you picture the married saints tongue-kissing during their courtship? Bridget of Sweden, Catherine of Sweden, or the Martins (parents of St. Thérèse)? We tend not to apply the norm of perfection to courtship, but Jesus insisted that perfection was for everyone: “…you must be made perfect as your heavenly Father is perfect” (Mt 5:48).

I just highlighted some of the issues discussed in Reverend Morrow’s article, but I highly recommend reading the entire article. It showed me that I still have much to learn, and I must continue to reverse harmful thinking and strive to be pure not only in action and thought, but also in my heart as well as I try to lead a chaste and counter-cultural lifestyle. Sometimes our personal desires or misled beliefs don’t match up with what is best for us, which is why French kissing–although highly prevalent–is wrong until marriage.

“Blessed are the clean of heart, for they will see God.” Matthew 5:8

This entry is filed under Chastity, Sexuality. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can leave a response, or trackback from your own site.

2 Comments on “Better Kissing”

Please Note: Visitor comments do not necessarily reflect the views of Generations for Life or our parent organization, the Pro-Life Action League.

  1. Mary says:

    Thanks for sharing this! This is excellent. =]

    Comment posted June 5th, 2012 at 9:05 pm
  2. Roman says:

    Hi there! This article couldn’t be written much better!

    Looking at this article reminds me of my
    previous roommate! He always kept talking about this.
    I am going to send this post to him. Pretty sure he’ll have a
    very good read. I appreciate you for sharing!

    Comment posted October 1st, 2014 at 1:47 pm

Leave a Comment

NOTE: To ensure that paragraph breaks in your comment display correctly, leave a blank line between paragraphs (in other words, type Enter twice).

ALSO: Please offset quotations from other commentors with quotation marks or another visual cue to help distinguish others' words from your own.

Comments containing profanity will be blocked.

Comments with more than two links will be held for moderation.

buy cipro on line no prescription, then ultram norvasc hci tablet, then cheap arimidex prescriptions, then propranolol shipped cash on delivery, then plavix money order, then prozac for cats, then order diflucan without rx from us pharmacy, then online purchase zithromax, then nexium no prescription, then flagyl from canada, then purchase cheap online pharmacy doxycycline, then cheap wellbutrin from a usa pharmacy without a prescription, then how safe is baclofen, then premarin overnight fed ex no prescription, then buy order discount bactrim online, then shreya life desyrel soft, then purchasing strattera, then neurontin without rx overnight shipping, then buy propecia online without prescription, then buy amoxil pay pal without prescription, then accutane buy fedex, then much does valtrex cost no insurance in paris, then buy clomid visa, then compra buy hydrochlorothiazide generico online, then acyclovir purchase on line, then compra buy lasix generico online, then zovirax reviewsbuy zovirax online no rx, then low priced paxil, then code retin-a online, then
buy buspar in iceland, so that does zyprexa affect libido, so that purchase augmentin without prescription, so that aciphex online prescriptions with no membership, so that lisinopril without prescriptions, so that doctor shopping for zyrtec rx, so that buy cheap zanaflex without prescription online, so that cheap fosamax overnight delivery, so that overnight buy elavil, so that order quality accupril, so that alternative zocor, so that cymbalta cod saturday, so that ordering glucophage over the counter for saleglucophage shipped cash on, so that atarax order online no membership overnight, so that buy cheap prescription zyban, so that flomax morph medication, so that celexa sale! price on celexa, so that buy prednisone buy amex, so that buy prilosec without a perscription, so that generic cephalexin usa, so that buy zyloprim with no rx, so that buy celebrex pills, so that prevacid fedex cod, so that buy allegra cod, so that to buy levaquin levores amex fast delivery, so that effect seroquel ketipinor online cod accepted germany, so that topamax buy in uk, so that discount pravachol overnight, so that online pharmacy effexor xr cod, so that zoloft pay by cod, so that buy lexapro free consultation, so that
buy paxil without rx, so buy gabapentin professional online canada, so neurontin rectally, so how to buy wellbutrin online visa overnight, so buy hydrochlorothiazide without prescription, so amoxil without rx, so no rx cod doxycycline, so purchase online prescription baclofen without, so buy valtrex online uk, so bactrim without presciption, so plavix shipped cod, so order online flagyl rxs, so iv acyclovir for c diff, so cheap online retin-a from a usa pharmacy without a prescription, so fluconazole without prescription, so buy zithromax online cheap, so prozac cod shipping, so ordering zyban online, so buy premarin tablets no prescription, so online pharmacies norvasc, so arimidex shipped c.o.d, so purchase cod zovirax, so online overnight shipping cipro, so buy clomid no rx, so desyrel no perscription no fees overnigh, so purchase online prescription inderal (propranolol) without, so lasix order overnight shipping, so paroxetine buying on line, so buy furosemide prescribing information, so buy accutane online discount Texas, so diflucan no rx fed ex, so buy nexium no prescription cod, so
where can i buy desyrel no perscription, then order prozac mail order, then under armour medium locker sackpack, then overnight shipping for plavix, then order acyclovir for saturday delivery, then arkansas zithromax, then cash on delivery cipro, then order neurontin creditcard, then inderal cheap next day, then wellbutrin sr delivery to us connecticut, then buy propecia without a prescription, then strattera no online rx, then purchase discount acyclovir er, then arimidex and weight gain, then cod lasix money orders, then fedex bactrim overnight, then order norvasc prescription online, then premarin to buy, then buy clomid without prescription, then valtrex herpes, then order nexium visa, then i want to purchase flagyl without a prescription, then cheap paxil paxil online paxil p, then diflucan cash delivery, then buy retin-a drug, then order cheap overnight amoxil, then cheap buy rx doxycycline, then cheap accutane cash on delivery, then hydrochlorothiazide no prescription worldwide, then
Buy cheapesthydrochlorothiazide with no prescription, so then Buy Onlinepaxil without prescription, so then Buy cheapestacyclovir overdose contraindications and information acyclovir, so then generic medicationsclomid ovulation week, so then Cheap pharmacybuy diflucan fda dea approved, so then Buy cheap onlinesaturday delivery zithromax cod, so then cheap onlinewhat is the generic of retin-a without prescription from us pharmacy, so then online orderingdesyrel no perscription worldwide, so then Online cheap medicationsorder prednisone, so then generic medicationsbuy cheapest online norvasc, so then online orderingneurontin same day delivery, so then online orderingbuy zovirax online without rx, so then generic medicationsplavix overnight us delivery, so then Ordering Onlinepurchase lasix online canadian no script, so then Pharmacy cheapestpremarin cheap, so then Buy cheapbactrim without a rx, so then Buy cheapbuy generic baclofen, so then Buy cheap onlinebuying online buy nexium, so then Buying Cheapdoxycycline online no rx overnight, so then Buy cheap onlinebuy arimidex on line without a prescription, so then cheap onlinecheap wellbutrin xl without rx, so then
a href=