—Posted by John (August 29, 2013 at 8:02 am)
Jonathan van Maren of the Canadian Centre for Bio-Ethical Reform has an excellent article this week about sexting.
Here’s an excerpt:
Girls: If a guy asks you for explicit pictures, heâ€™s implicitly told you what he wants from you. The answer is itâ€™s not you. He wants your body, and in this scenario he doesnâ€™t even want you physically present. By sending him these pictures youâ€™re voluntarily reducing yourself to a one-dimensional sex object, without a personality, without aspirations or intellect or even a voice. You are a person with a body, not a body with a person. If the boy youâ€™re talking to doesnâ€™t recognize that, then drop him hard, and wait for someone who does. There will be guys who want to spend time with you, not just your body.
Guys: If youâ€™re asking for these pictures, think for a minute about what youâ€™re saying about girls and women in general. Youâ€™re revealing something about yourself thatâ€™s pretty distasteful: Namely, that the relationship you want is one defined by your particular sexual wants rather than the presence of another person who demandsâ€”or should demandâ€”mutual respect and understanding. If youâ€™re asking for these pictures, youâ€™re not acting the way a man should, by respecting (and in some cases protecting) the women in your life. You are acting like a predator, and a cannibalistic one to boot. And if the pictures are sent to you unsolicited, you should delete them and tell her sheâ€™s worth more than that.